Beginners Guide to Spanking

Have you dabbled in a bit of spanking before? Chances are you have. If you want to learn more about impact play before giving it more of a go with your partner then this guide created by our Bondage Gear experts will give you a little bit more information on the incredibly popular practice!

What is Spanking?

Spanking, also known as impact play, is where you repeatedly strike your partner or submissive, for the enjoyment of both parties. This can be spanking, caning, whipping, or flogging, meaning that a variety of equipment can be used. Spanking your partner increases blood flow to the targeted area, making it more sensitive. Furthermore, spanking also stimulates nerve endings which release pleasurable endorphins.

Why should you try it?

Many find that spanking really hits that spot and brings a new aspect to their relationship. When you spank your partner it releases waves of endorphins, giving them an unbeatable high. The endorphins counteract the pain signals, confusing the brain into thing that the pain is actually pleasure. Some people have even reported that this natural high state that is produced by spanking has caused an altered state of consciousness.

The confusion between pleasure and pain also enhances your sexual response and desire. By spanking the backside of your partner you stimulate one of the major nerves that supplies the genitals. Spanking increases blood flow to the strike surface, and therefore can cause the genitals to become engorged. Furthermore, the affected area then becomes even more sensitive and susceptible to further teasing or tormenting during your sensory play sessions.

Safety

Whilst partaking in any form of BDSM, safety is always extremely important, and it is even more necessary to take yours and your partners safety into consideration when conducting some impact play. So whilst spanking your partner make sure you always monitor their reaction to a spank, and read their bondage language. If it looks like they aren’t enjoying themselves then ask them, communication is key! Furthermore, when striking them stick to more fatty or muscular areas like the back to the thighs or bum. Always test your spanking equipment before using it and make sure that you start off gently and slower before building up.

We strongly recommend that you do not take any pain pills before you spanking sessions or strike your partner too hard or frequently.

Positions

There are many different positions that you will be able to spank your partner with, some very obvious and some a bit less so. When spanking it is always important to make sure that both you and your partner are comfortable, the more comfortable you are, the more relaxed you will be, and the more the recipient of the thwack will be able to withstand!

The first, and perhaps one of the most classic positions for spanking is ‘Over the Knee). This is where the ‘spanker’ would lay the ‘spankee’ over the top of their legs, with their bottom facing outwards. This allows for the ‘spanker’ to easily restrain their partner, as well as delivering a solid spank to the buttocks!

Another popular position is where the ‘spankee’ would bend over, stretching out their muscles and skin, making each hit to the area much more intense! After you have experienced this position you can then make your partner stand up straight, which will feel more relaxing for them. Be careful though, because movement can result in poor spanking accuracy, so make sure you re-align your aim!

Types of Spanking Equipment

There are many different types of spanking tools that you can use to give your partner a good old fashioned spanking! You may have already started off with your hand which is the most popular spanking tool. However their is only so much spank one hand can give! So you may want to look into the different tools in order to deliver a better sting to your partner.

Cane

Canes are one of the most well known types of spanking tools, and deliver a sharp, intense pain which will more than likely leave marks on the skin. When caning, make sure you are just using the lower end as the strike point in order to prevent overlapping injury. Canes are very lightweight, easy to hide in plain sight, and very easy to control, making them great tools for spanking beginners.

Flogger

Floggers have a whip like handle with pieces of fabric that dangle down from it. These are known as falls. The falls tend to be made from leather or PU, and deliver a deep sensation with every strike. Floggers produce a variety of different markings on the skin which depends on the different types of movement, how many falls a flogger has, and the thickness of them.

Paddle

Paddles are extremely straight forward and easy to use. There are a wide variety of different types of paddles available, all of which vary in the sting given to your victim! So make sure you always research your paddle before buying a paddle. Paddles deliver a deep thudding sensation that is similar to a hand, but also more intense.

Whip

Whips are long and thing, and deliver one of the strongest and powerful sensations out of all the spanking tools so we recommend to only use if you have partaken in spanking before!

Riding Crop

Riding crops are some of the most popular spanking tools for everyone. They are great for beginners as you can control the whack strength very easily; they are loved by spanking pro’s and for those who want to complete dominant look! They produce a nice little mark on the skin and sound fantastic as they move through the air and strike your sub!

If you have read through our guide to spanking and think that impact play is something that you and your partner would like to have a go with then take a look at our best spanking equipment for some of the best spanking gear available!